Relationships... Relating... Connection.... shedding the old and diving deep into the mystery.

It's a rather grey and overcast day outside and so I find myself here feeling inspired to put pen to paper after some intriguing and poignant conversations over the last few days.

After watching Lee Harris's, November forecast talking about relationships and connections, I have been and am aware of the myriad of ways that this is showing up in my life and with those close to me. Conversations that are seeking some kind of understanding and perhaps even resolution. Conversations, where I can feel both people's vulnerability and strength in equal measure. I wanted to share my understanding and experience of what, I believe, we are being asked to look at in this regard.

Lee Harris - November Forecast

In my work of bringing people on a journey 'home' to themselves, I am increasingly aware that we are being asked to be the most authentic and true versions of ourselves that we can be. What do I mean by this? In simple terms, that we take time to check in with ourselves on a daily basis whether what we are doing and saying and 'being' is true to how we are feeling in that moment. When I suggest checking in on a daily basis, this is because I very recently had the experience of having an absolute 'truth' one day and being very amused that this truth had indeed shifted by the following day.

It will come as no surprise to anyone that the area where we are most deeply challenged and most deeply rewarded, in my humble opinion, is in the area of relationships. Here, I am talking about familial relationships, relationships with a lover or partner, relationships with friends and relationships with colleagues. In fact any connection that we make with another person can be both challenging and rewarding. 

As the trees are shedding their leaves in order for a hibernation and renewal to occur before the new buds and life of spring, so we are being asked to shed the old relationships that are no longer serving us. It runs a little deeper than this for me though, as this is not a new or radical concept. What I believe we are really being asked to do right now is to shed the behaviours around our relationships that no longer serve us. Many of these behaviours will have become so ingrained that we forget to check in with ourselves as to whether this is actually how we wish to be in relation to or in connection with another. 

We most likely 'know' instinctively that something needs to change but we find ourselves repeating the same patterns and one potential reason for this is that we don't know 'how' to do it differently. What if we are not meant to know and that what we are really being asked to do is to remain in a state of not knowing and ultimately 'trusting'? What if we are being asked to dare to 'do' something very different? What if we are being asked to truly come from a place of speaking and acting from the very 'heart' of who we are? No matter how that might impact on others around us. 

As we are finding 'new' ways to be and opening up to a potentially more direct and vulnerable way of communicating - it may not always be pretty. I share this as on a couple of occasions recently, I have found myself blurting out my 'truth' in a less than graceful way. Be gentle on your selves if this too is what you experience. There appears to be an energy that is supporting us to vocalise and if we have previously found this difficult, it may just need to come out and that is okay. Learning to walk as a child was not always without a few bumps and bruises and at times a little ungainly. What feels important right now is that we are not suppressing what we feel led to say to others. With practice we can refine it and say it with a little more grace and ease. 

When we vocalise and act upon that which is old and no longer serving us so we open the space for that which is new to arrive. 

It is natural for us as human beings to want to have some security or 'label' around what a new relationship might be. What if the connections and relationships that are available to us right now are meant to be shrouded in a little mystery to allow for a deeper, more fulfilling and more creative experience. It is possible that a deeper experience of ourselves and of the other person will occur simply because we have not put any constraints around what it is or what it is meant to be. When I speak of constraints, I am talking specifically around labelling the relationship as opposed to having boundaries. It feels even more important to be aware of healthy boundaries as we all navigate the energies of this present time. What I feel strongly though is that energies are supporting us to have more deeply connected, more conscious and more fulfilling relationships. Relationships that allow all of us to show up to.

The energies are supporting us at the moment to really shift the way we 'do' and 'are' in relationship to each other. This may mean that some tricky or difficult conversations need to be had in order to 'clear' the air or indeed clear space for new relationships to come in. Whilst we do what we have always done, we will indeed get what we have always got. So get candid with your self. What is it that you currently have in relationship to someone that you no longer want? Get candid with your self. What do you really desire and want to have in your life in relationship? What connections do you truly desire to have and to make? What needs to happen in order for that to be able to become manifest. How willing are you to get into your heart and speak openly and vulnerably about what is not working for you and what is working for you and what you want more of? Yes, we get to ask for that too.

November, feels to me, to be all about open, honest, direct communication delivered from a heartfelt and authentic place. 

Nature is not shy about death and rebirth. Nature knows that in order for new life, there needs to be some form of destruction..... a falling away. When we allow this to happen - we allow the mystery of new life and new form to take place.

And so I encourage you to have those conversations you 'know' you need or want to have. 

I encourage you to get very clear with your self on how you wish to relate to your self and to others. And for many of us this will be new territory as we shed old behaviours and patterns and open up to new ways of being with our selves and with others. 

And I encourage you to stay in the mystery of new relationships and connections.... let them evolve in a natural and exciting way... and most importantly be open to them happening and coming into your life...

And know, truly know that you are being supported in whatever choices you are making. 

With love and blessings, always
Nikola